The Stylish Mamma

Today my son is back to school so I decided that I'd have a date with with sofa. I've had a bath and yes I love my son, but I do like to have time with myself. To me it is important and Henry loves his friends at  school and glad it is back. Henry gets easily bored and we did so much in the summer it is good to unwind and spend some time apart.  It is a nice day out so I may read in the garden later. I just like to be able to work and relax. I have my radio show already planned for the end of the week. There is the little feeling of guilt not wanting to do anything like cleaning so did a little just pottering and going to do bits of pottering around through out the day but mainly just chill. So looking forward to the cooler weather and be cosy indoors. I have bought a new jumper from H&M and was going to wear but its still too hot but I love jumpers and buying a new one and this week going to do more decluttering of my clothes but I am in the position that I do like my clo...

I watched an old documentary about Celine Dion of when she went back to her Las Vegas shows after having her twin boys and she talks about song called Seventeen, because she had such a hard time at school and I did too. I wasn't super pretty, I had yellow teeth from drinking lots of tea and had to cut down as it stains the teeth, had what is was known as "Puppy fat" and why I started my google blog Building Confidence The Ugly Duckling and it made me think about if I created a soundtrack of my life what songs would I choose? Music really helps me. It helps to wake me up, calm down and feel blissful. I have changed my soundtrack because I no longer living in self pity and now get up and do the things that help make the day of how I feel presently and my next steps. The song Dancing In the dark by Bruce Springsteen always lifts me up, Do you know where you going to, Diana Ross and It's my turn.  Livin' On a Prayer is my anthem for where I was in the 90's when I...

This not to boast or to lecture. I find too much heat on my hair dries it out too much and I like not to use heat on your hair all of the time. Sometimes if I have a free day my hair is blowed dried if my mum is free and style my hair. Any other time I will leave it and having a heatwave it has been a relief to feel cool and washing my hair leaving it to dry naturally has been so good.  I do have straighteners but I just don't like to use them all the time.  One thing I do instead is make sure I use a good shampoo and conditioner and use hair oil too and take supplements to help with my skin and hair aswell as inside in my body.  I did a vlog showing my new hair care products I bought. I like to try different products and I love a hair oil that can be used for dry and wet hair. It just really helps with the growth and the condition of it.  When I hear people talking about their hair especially if you have lost it can feel like a losing a limb. It is part of your iden...

I am on the third series of the Traitors US and as we, my son and I have been exploring for the most of the Easter Holidays and so we are having a day indoors and I have been binging on Davina McCall's Podcast,  https://www.youtube.com/@BeginAgainWithDavina  Last book I read  I get so much joy from it. I still have a few of the Sort Your Life Out episodes, Dragons Den and want to catch up on the crime fiction Grace and love to have a day where I binge on TV or on Youtube. It is good to get your teeth in something that you can just sit back with some toast or ice cream and just lose yourself in a good series and letting the outside world continue. I think the best series are the ones where you can follow a path and takes me away from my troubles and everyday challenges. I love to watch vlogs and I like to work on my blogs and books and just a day that is mine and today my son is suffering with his Hayfever and so we are taking a break and he is watching trains and watching...

My Weekends are mixed. I often do a radio show on some Sundays and my son does a few sports and then we will play when the weather is warmer out in the garden and we will on Saturdays watch sport if there is football or rugby on and it just a great time to just unwind and get tasks done that you can't do in the week.  Take some extra time to be with yourself. The weekend if you aren't working because of shops, hospital workers for example have to, but have some extra time to read if it possible, sit out in the garden when it is nice and sunny outdoors and I like getting up when it is dark and see the sunlight come through. If  you are a parent then ask if your spouse or partner to take the kids out whilst you spend extra time to listen to music, have a friend over or watch the Saturday morning TV.  Arrange playdate . Often if my brothers family will pay a visit but my brother plays sports but a great time to see family and in the spring summer have a family BBQ. Have time...

It is good to have an idea of where you are heading. Have aspirations. Be making one step a day to get to where you want to be.  I like where I am at at the moment. I today took my son on a bus ride because my son has wanted to go on a bus that goes to West Croydon for ages. At the moment he has no school placement so it felt like it was the right to do it today.  Where have you always wanted to go? This is includes your mindset. What do you want to set your mind on? Mine is to focus on finding a school for my son, publish another book and continue building my blogs and Youtube channels and letting more things go. Have low spend year and own less. I feel that if you want direction you need to think about what results do you want to see.  What things do you want to let go of? I do a radio show for my local hospital and want to do more shows to build up my confidence and not allow the fear of doing that get to me and stop me.  What do want see in your life? I would lik...

I am 47 years of age. How old can you be to have a Comfort Blanket?  I love being able to sit on the sofa on my laptop with my blanket or just watching TV. It is good to be indoors and have something that can be your meditation and therapy. I like to be in my PJ's a lot because it helps my mind calm down and refreshed to have a proper day and time that is yours and noone is allowed to disturb and be a date with yourself.  I wrote about how I like a good pair of PJ's and be on my laptop with a drink and it just gives me so much joy and so does a comfort blanket. Please check out another google blog I write:  My Style Way of Living Am I too old?  It brings me so much joy that I am tempted to buy a Christmas one.  Amazon is my go to as I am not a fan of Christmas shopping in the high street because of it being too busy.  A comfort blanket is a great gift. Not necessarily a Christmas one as it can only be used once a year but one that can be used all year round...

I watched a really good Podcast called Happy Place, where Fearn Cotton speaking to the writer Elizabeth Gilbert with a Pizza, which I am going to do on a regular basis. This is not something I'd want to do every week but now and again. I like to have proper family dinners, without social media or being on our devices.  As a kid we never had the internet and would all sit around the table and often the TV would be turned off, whilst we ate. We focused on what we were eating and would be told "Stop watching the TV and Eat your dinner" and I would take a long time to eat to the point my food would end up in being cold.  Anyway reverse back to forty years later I like to still have a family meal but watching something or I will play some music. I like to eat mindfully but I also love to do something different and having a Podcast whilst eating some Pizza still made me feel present and time where we can all be watching something and still be doing something together as a famil...

Shopping with my son I really wanted to read a magazine with a cup of tea. It took me ages to find where they were and not something I buy all the time now. Buying a magazine all the time, I wouldn't read them so would be a waste, so it is something I buy now and then and will on the occasion buy the Big Issue. I love to just have a cup of tea, Yorkshire Tea or Tetley Teabags and a the Woman And Home magazine.  It is good to read up interviews and just a break from books. I do love books but treat myself to a mag and do get inspired by many of them articles. Not just celebrities but normal folk where people have begun a hobby and now it is their business.  I remember reading about a woman who lost her legs in the London Bombings and became a wheelchair Professional Wheelchair Netball Player. It is good to have sometime to chill and on Saturday it was a rainy day. When shopping we each allowed us to pick 4 things to buy and it was good. Doing different things and having that ti...

I don't have a bacon sandwich all the time, but now and then with a cup of tea. It is good to have the things you enjoy to feel excited. I love my food now, being super fuzzy as a child and when I have a Bacon Sandwich it reminds me of my dad as every weekend he'd make me a Bacon or Sausage sandwich but found it super filling and wouldn't eat all of it, which my dad would get annoyed with and didn't like how soggy the bread would get. Now it is part of it, but a Bacon roll is a delicious too and nice to have this to warm up the body and feel satisfied and it actually helps with my appetite by being full and not snacking so much. The tea I normally have is, Tetley's or Yorkshire Tea. I do occasionally have herbal and like a bit of lemon and honey in the winter, in my tea. I like my afternoon cup and like to have a cuppa in the evening when reading my book before bedtime.  The book I am reading at the moment is The Street by Anthony Quinn. I bought it from a Charity s...

Hello and welcome to my site and for checking out this blog site. I am writing this as I have my second cup of tea for the day with, two slices of toast with Jam. This is the life.  Nothing better my book and a cup of tea which I do each morning and evening I love nothing better and make sure I have something to eat in the morning. I can't function on an empty stomach and it can be a bowl of cereal some days, we had waffles this week too, with Chocolate Spread and Maple Syrup and often my son loves Scrambled egg on toast.  There was a time I'd skip breakfast and not eat until midday. Mainly when I was working at a holiday camp because I wouldn't eat until the first shift of the day was be over and couldn't stomach food and  I did lose a lot of weight for while as I was moving more than what I was eating and drinking alcohol, a lot of the time and binge drinking is not a good idea. So now I will fuel myself when I get up in the morning to kick start my day and it has mad...

I am sitting at my dining table which is in the Living room, creating my monthly Newsletter check out Everyone can build a castle , with my coffee. It inspired me because I know people say too much coffee is bad, which in my case is true but I still love to have a morning coffee.  Picture I took of a Cappuccino  Frappes are off the cards as they give me a bad stomach but normal iced or hot Lattes I am fine with as long as I limit it to two to three days a week, as I do love going for a coffee in a coffee shop once or twice in the week and during the weekend.  I currently have a cafetiere and it is nice but a bit weak, but I like making my own coffee some days rather buying. It can be expensive buying coffees in a shop and why I don't do it everyday.  My mum and Stepdad have a coffee machine which I use it now and again as I have a jar of instant coffee, but would like to invest in a Throffer and be able to have a latte at home. I have tried sachets, but I would ...

I am writing a book called Life as a Bedtime girl and she loves home life. She loves her book and bed, married to an Italian and comes and goes as she pleases. Would we like to have a life?  Me in my Christmas PJs It is good to invest in making sure you have a good sleep and having a good set of PJ's can help. I don't buy PJ's all of the time, as the ones I have had have lasted for a long time. I like clothes, including bed clothes that last and it can really help to settle for the evening. Invest in yourself. I have had trouble with sleep and its getting to sleep that I have struggled with, but now I sleep well and having a bath with a pair of lovely and easy wearing PJ's have helped and helps me be productive the next day. Having a nice set of sleep wear has made a difference. I have to have a set that allows my skin to breath and instantly relaxes me.  Then there is bedding. I will admit I not one to wash my bedding all of the time like I know I should, but is a must...

Just had a lovely bath with Himalaya Salts and feel so refreshed. No this is not an advert, I just love that I have baths instead of showers now. I been listening to a Podcast and listened to one by Ken Bruce, Greatest Hits Radio with Elkie Brooks and singer I grew up listening to as my dad would play her songs.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bhyn1WSGhXQ I don't have baths everyday, but every other day and alternate with my son, so he has a bath one evening and I have a bath the next evening and is my time I like to spend. Yes I do get disturbed being a parent, when in the bath. I am sure you can resonate, if you to are a parent too. There was a time where I'd have showers and I do at the weekend, but love having soak to relax and recuperate.  What do you prefer bath or shower? Please put down in the comment box below.  As I walk a lot, I like to allow my body to recover and some do ice baths. This has become a trend and seen on Instagram of celebrities getting ont...

It is less than 19 days before Christmas and luckily I have only two more gifts to buy and then there is the food and already got items to drink and not going to drink the whole day but as we get nearer and afterwards too and looking forward to a chill out day.  My son decorating his tree We have our decorations up and not bought anything as we have quite a bit and put the Christmas tree into my sons room as we have no space in the Living room and he was very pleased, because he had decorated it all by himself.  As I write this blog I am having a coffee with a Mince Pie and why I wanted to write this post as Christmas is about not worrying about weight or feeling guilty but enjoyment and something I have to have when it is Christmas time. It wouldn't be the same if I didn't. I feel it is going to be a good Christmas with no expectations, but having food and drink that I don't have for the rest of the year and music too.  Watching a bit of TV and what I miss about not havi...

Today took me a while to wake up and always happens this time of year, autumn 2024 and I have been active, did a walk on the treadmill and now going to spend the day on the sofa.  I find this time I have to myself, whilst my son is at school to be chilled and peaceful as my son is so energetic that it is can be a shock to wake up early and so have time to work on blogs, have a nice lunch in between and tomorrow going to go out and to have a coffee, do some writing in a coffee shop and go to B&M, which is now one of my favourite stores.  However, today it is me watching a bit of Youtube, catching up on my google blogs and other blogs I write on Wordpress, along with working on a book I am writing and going through emails.  Of course I do need to dry up from Breakfast, but will do this once it gets closer to lunch and hydrate and then get back on the couch and do some more on my laptop and may catch up on some TV.  Well that lasted. As my husband just popped in, wh...

I love nothing than having a coffee whilst planning and drafting content that I'd like to share on my blogs and videos, having a change of environment.  Also like to try different coffees in different coffee shops and have a bit of me time, which for me is so important in terms of energy and relaxation.  Having time for me is what I need when my son is with his dad, at a holiday club he goes to in the holidays or be looked after by his grandparents.  I know it is not always possible to have break as when school returns, I know some of us have a few more weeks left, it can be all systems go and we get caught up with being busy with the return of school, but I use the time in the morning or evening, depending on when you get quiet moment then there is no better feeling in having a good coffee, and my journal and pen, and planning my life.  I love to brainstorm and draft blogs and allowing my creativity come out and just allow myself to put my thoughts and ideas on ...

My mum loves a dress and she is very glamorous and puts make up on everyday where I with me I put mine on when there is particular reason, and I like my leggins with a t-shirt or jumper, and will wear a dress when for a particular reason, and also dress to suit my lifestyle like working out and comfortable clothing that can be casual and smart.  I am that parent that could live in gym gear all of the time, but to avoid that I will style my wardrobe with trousers, shorts and I do like a nice top that is different and smarten up again depending on what I am doing on the day (if I am going out) and the weather. At school I was someone who would look at the girls in my class of what they were wearing and plan my wardrobe that suited me at that time. I also collect clothes that has longevity, checkout my blog site   Carries Versatile fashion . It is important to me to have good functional style that my body can breath and like a jumper is like being given like a big hug and a ...

 As a kid I felt uncomfortable about being a child, because I saw being an adult, it meant that you had more freedom than being a child. Being 45 seemed a long long milestone and now I am 45, gotten to a place where I am okay with my life, and that I have come a long way to feeling good about myself and that I am no longer fearful compared to when I was a kid. I did have a good childhood and feel very lucky with the things I have done through out it, like holiday's in Clacton and Menorca, and seeing shows up London and visits to London Zoo, Chessington Zoo before it became a Theme Park, and it was just the zoo, and getting my ears pierced up London and spent time seeing my grandparents.  There was a time I liked to go out all the time and meet friends for a drink and get plastered. Not so much now, and like having the odd drink, but no over do it. Its alright going out partying but you have to think about getting home safely and I think you become more protective especially be...

The start of this week has been a struggle as not felt too good, and so stayed in but really I needed to be outside and glad I did go out today as I bumped into someone that I hadn't seen for ages. She was someone I met when my son was born, as her son like Henry was premature, and born two days before Henry and so good to see her.  Wimbledon RFC Ground that we go to each weekend and gives my son joy and me too Today I did a list for today of what I needed to get done as started to work on my laptop in the mornings, and has helped plan and break my day up. Everyone has a different schedule, and important jobs to do, and so like to acknowledge those who take their kids to school each day and on time, yet they have to travel a lot to do that, and then go to work and rarely have time for themselves.  When it comes to choices and what to do each day, is on how I feel, and today wanted to hop on the bus, get bits for dinner, grab a coffee and get bus back.  It is the same when...